Yesterday I had lunch with friends and had a fantastic time. At some point, though, they started to complain about the booth behind us because their kids “were out of control.” I didn’t say anything about it because I knew those out of control kids could have easily been mine.
New parents or people who don’t have kids are very judgmental of other parents. They always think they could or would do it better if it were them. I know this because I used to be one of those people. I used to be judgmental of other parents especially parents who let their kids watch TV. Well, it has been a few years and I have come around.
Last night I tried to get Samuel into his high chair for dinner. He resisted and we started to wrestle. I realized I wasn’t going to win, so I let him go. Kids are a lot stronger than they appear to be. So what did I do next? I bribed him with an episode of Yo Gabba Gabba. He eventually came back to the table and I got him and his siblings to eat.
The old me would have been critical of that decision. The new me (the older, wiser me) knows that sometimes you have to make adjustments to meet your kids where they are. I also know that being a parent is hard. We should all be slow to judge other people’s parenting skills especially if we’ve never been there because it is always harder than it looks.