When you become a mom everything changes about your life. Everything. One of the things that will certainly change is the amount of time you’re able to dedicate to your friends.
Shortly after I had my kids, my relationship with my friends all but eviscerated. Needless to say I was a little busy after having triplets, but quickly realized that I needed to reconnect with my friends or at least find new ones. Why? Because life is better with friends and according to research it’s important for your health too.
Having friends help us to better cope with stress, fight disease, and it even promotes brain health and who among us can’t use a little extra brain health? So how do we maintain our relationship with our friends with all of life’s demands? Here are a few tips:
- Schedule monthly lunch/brunch or dinner dates with friends. Remember the old saying “out of sight, out of mind.” While other forms of contact are great, face-to-face helps to maintain the emotional connection between friends.
- Stay active on social media/networking sites. For many moms there isn’t enough time in the day or month for that matter, to find time for all your friends. Social media allows people to stay in touch with more people!
- Show up (when possible) for major events. Missing milestone events in a friend’s life like a wedding, shower, or child’s first birthday can really kill a friendship. I’ve been on both sides of this and rarely does the friendship ever recover. So show up when you can!
- Share your life with your friends (appropriately of course). Sometimes when we become wives or mothers we stop sharing with some friends because we think they can’t relate to our lives or contribute in a meaningful way. Try to resist these feelings. Every good friend has something to contribute so share your life with her. Without a real emotional connection with your friends, there is no real friendship.
So if you haven’t already, call up a girlfriend and reconnect!